I liked this book. It is written in a manner to be approachable to many men. They use the toolbox as a metaphor on aspects of relationships. The toolbox makes this subject more approachable than other texts I've read. The gist is that men are are innately expert in 6 aspects of relationships, (fact giving, fact finding, take charge, task oriented, problem solving, competitive drive), while women are innately expert in a different 6, (open sharing, patient listening, win-win, selfless honor, time and energy).The authors make no bones that each individual is imbued with differing levels of the 12, but they offer extremes or gender generalizations to illustrate the topics. Each reader will have to determine how expert they are with each tool. This ground has been ploughed before with John Gray's book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", among others. The topics is approached from a different point of view, with this one being Christian/bible based.One main point of the book is that to be a complete person, as illustrated by Christ's examples is to be expert in all the tools. All the tools are need to form complete, sustained, and fulfilled relationships. The 6 "female" tools being that areas for development for men.I could be overly sensitive, but I'm bothered by the hidden assumption that men need fixing. I struggle with a society that seems to assume that men are in need of fixing, hence the number of books that strive to help men. There seems to be fewer books to help women develop their lesser areas. I suppose if you accept the biblical proposition that men are the leaders of the family and the body of Christ, the onus is on us to to seize the opportunity. It would be nice if some one said that the other gender needs some help too.